The Family Stories That Bind Us — This Life - NYTimes.com
Gathering places, like the dinner table, for example, can be a meeting place for stories, as well. Not just the pleasant recollections but also the not so pleasant ones. For example, in the last days of my mother's life, my sister and brother and I shared our remembrance of bad times and good. Our thoughts always came back to how my mother had brought the family through those times, how she always seemed to be the glue that held us together. She was a survivor and she dragged us with her, forward and upward.
Sometimes being a hero, being a brave soldier, and being the one who holds on is more about staying in the race rather than winning it. As the holidays descend upon us, let us use those "gathering times" and "gathering places" to tell the stories, both good and bad. They will make us stronger and chase the shadows away for our children and/or grandchildren.